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A Disease Called Unforgiveness

Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift. Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still together on the way, or your adversary may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison.

Key Points:

  1. Settling matters with your adversary isn’t always easy especially when you don’t know the cause of why that person isn’t speaking to you but as believers we must seek God in the area of forgiving our adversary. It’s so easy to say that we have forgiven someone but when that person’s name is mentioned, we become very angry because of the the pain that was caused.
  2. Unforgiveness can hinder us from seeing what God is doing in our lives. You may have been asking God to give you peace but due the pain your harboring, you don’t see God working in your life.
  3. Don’t wait for your adversary to come to you before you settle matters. This verse made it clear. It didn’t say wait until your enemy comes to you before you settle matters. It said “leave your gift at the altar”. Go and be reconciled with them. Then come and offer your gift. We see that this is a command that God is trying to illustrate to us. He didn’t say sit and wait for your adversary to come and tell you what caused the friction in your relationship. God makes it very clear. Go!
  4. In the final verse, we are reminded that we should settle matters quickly before it’s too late. Sometimes, we wait so many years before we forgive someone. Due to unforgiveness, we harbor so much hurt, pain and bitterness which prolongs our healing. Unforgiveness is a disease. It’s like a seed we refuse to allow the Holy Spirit to uproot. We are comfortable with it being rooted in our souls. We say with our mouths that we have forgiven that person that hurt us but truth be told, we don’t know what it means to forgive someone. Many times, we don’t want to forgive those that have hurt us because we want to hold them hostage and responsible for the hurt they caused us. No matter how many times they apologize or come to terms with the damage they have done to us, we refuse to accept their apologies because we feel that they aren’t honestly sorry. Though this may be the case, it is not our responsibility to sit and ponder about their intentions. It’s your responsibility to settle the matter but bring that heart issue to God. Release your pain unto God. Understanding that forgiving someone doesn’t mean re-entry into your life again will really help you. Many times, we think forgiving someone means that we have to be friends with them or maintain a relationship with them. To truth of the matter is that you don’t have to maintain a relationship with those who have hurt you. If it is your desire to reconcile and start that relationship anew, bring your heart desires before God and allow his will to be done.

Questions:

  1. Who do you need to forgive?
  2. What is holding you back from showing that individual grace/mercy?
  3. How would you feel if God remembered everything that you did and refused to forgive you?
  4. Are you comfortable with keeping records of what others have done to you?
  5. What do you need to do to break away from that habit?
  6. Have you forgiven yourself?
  7. Have you brought the issue before God?
  8. How long will you continue to harbor anger, bitterness, and unforgiveness?
  9. Peace is waiting for you. Joy is ready for you. Are you ready to receive the gift of the Lord?
  10. Today is the day. Go before God and express your cares before God.

May God give you the grace to forgive. For it is written “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” -Matthew 6:14-15

Until next time, stay blessed & encouraged. Have a blessed day 🙂

 

 

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Posted by on January 21, 2018 in Uncategorized

 

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Faith Based Channels

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Christian Youtube Based Channels:

  1. Leahsessence
  2. Ashley Empowers
  3. Sharon Burgesson
  4. Elevation Church
  5. Beloved Women With Christina Patterson
  6. One Church LA
  7. Life Coach Shawn
  8. Maha Maven
  9. Dephne Madyara
  10. Crowned In Faith
  11. Godlydating 101
  12. Child of the kingdom
  13. Ify Alexis
  14. Albaner C Eugene Jr
  15. ChelseyMariaa
  16. Coffee and Bible Time
  17. Faceovermatter
  18. ForeverRachel
  19. Gabes and Anna
  20. Girl Defined
  21. Gabrielle Rockson
  22. Get Bare Before God
  23. Godzdesign
  24. Heather Lindsey
  25. Imiebi Rose
  26. Jefferson Bethke
  27. Joseph Solomon
  28. Kence
  29. Kim Cash Tate
  30. Kobbysays
  31. Kukua Asihene
  32. loveMichelleAna
  33. Lovelimitless
  34. Morgan Tracy J
  35. Miss Rockson
  36. Ophilia Mansoh
  37. Ope and Ayo Davies
  38. Practicing Reuel
  39. Priscilla Shirer
  40. Purpose Meets Class
  41. Sarah Destiny
  42. Simply, Feli
  43. Silvia Dwomoh
  44. Sopha Rush
  45. Team Swoduel
  46. Terri Savelle Foy
  47. The Teachers Show
  48. Tosin Alabi
  49. Tosin & Zoie
  50. The Bible Project
  51. Will & Dom
  52. Zoe Siobhan

The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. -Philippians 4:9. As you take the time to check out these channels, I hope you are blessed and encouraged. Tell your friends and their friends. Feel free to mention other channels that I didn’t mention on the list. Never forget that these are channels to help and encourage you in your walk. This is not a substitution for reading the Bible. Until next time, live and love. God bless you 🙂

 
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Posted by on September 12, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

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Rejoice In The Lord

Andrea Howey

“He celebrates and sings because of you.”
Zephaniah 3:17 

CELEBRATE YOURSELF—GOD DOES!

Some of us think so little of ourselves that we’d rather be in a bad relationship than none at all. Being around people doesn’t guarantee you won’t feel lonely. Actually, being with the wrong people guarantees you’ll end up feeling empty and used. Until you overcome your fear of being alone and wait for God to give you the right relationships, you’ll continue to feel lonely. Sometimes loneliness is more about not liking yourself than about not having people around who like you. Otherwise, why would you spend so much energy avoiding rejection instead of building healthy relationships? Perhaps you think if you don’t get involved you won’t get hurt. Or you’re afraid to open up in case people criticize you for sharing anything personal. Such anxieties just contribute to your sense of isolation. Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said, “What you picture in your mind, your mind will go to work to accomplish. When you change your pictures, you automatically change your performance.” So: (1) You need a true picture of how God sees you. Paul says, “Because of what Christ has done we have become gifts…God…delights in” (Eph 1:11 TLB). Zephaniah writes, “He celebrates and sings because of you, and he will refresh your life with his love.” (2) You need a true picture of yourself. David said, “You…put me together inside my mother’s body, and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous!” (Ps 139:13-14 CEV). Having these two pictures clearly in mind stops you from operating with a devalued self-image, and enables you to ask for what you need in a relationship.// Devotional: Word For You 🙂

 
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Posted by on August 5, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

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Be Wise

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“Those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.”
Pr 11:13 NLT

BE CAREFUL WHOM YOU CONFIDE IN

If you need help with a problem in your personal life, your family, or your career, keep the following things in mind: (1) Bad news is often remembered longer than good news. Long after you have resolved the issue and moved on with your life, the wrong people will continue to focus on it and talk about it. That’s why God’s Word says, “Those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.” (2) Be careful who advises you. “The thoughts of the righteous are right, but the counsels of the wicked are deceitful” (Pr 12:5 NKJV). Be sure you reach for the right person. There are many sources of wisdom in this world, “but the wisdom that is from above is…pure…peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and…hypocrisy” (Jas 3:17 NKJV). Note the words, “the wisdom that is from above.” Confide only in a counselor who walks according to the principles of God’s Word. (3) Make sure the person you trust isn’t confiding in others you wouldn’t trust. They say you can tell a man by the company he keeps. And it’s true! The Bible says, “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly” (Ps 1:1 NKJV). (4) “Problem talk” can portray you as a victim instead of an overcomer. Nobody wants to back a loser. When Job lost everything, almost everybody avoided him. It was only after God doubled Job’s blessings that they returned to participate in his life and bring him gifts. It’s always wise to control your mouth, your thoughts, and your focus. Remember, silence can never be misquoted.

Reflection:

  1. Who are your friends?
  2. Who do you confide in when situations arise?
  3. What have you learned about yourself when your’e faced with trials?
 
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Posted by on June 5, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

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Two Hearts (One Beat)

Happy Sunday everyone. I hope you all are doing well. So today we are continuing the marriage series. In today’s blog, I will sharing with you another Youtube channel that discusses marital advice and etc. I believe that there’s always something to learn whether you are in a relationship or not. As you watch these videos, please take notes. Share it with your friends and their friends. Until next time, be blessed & encouraged.

Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (Genesis 2:22-24)

A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4)

 

 

 

 
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Posted by on March 12, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

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Faith Based Channels

Recently, I was watching a youtube video about this woman who rededicated her life to Christ. In her video, she mentioned that it was hard to come across Youtubers whose channels focused on God. I was surprised by her comment so I suggested her a few of them on that specific video. So I decided why not share some with you all too. I understood where the woman was coming from because a lot of youtubers make videos on hair, makeup, lookbooks and etc. I do enjoy watching a variety of things on Youtube but I’m usually listening to worship or tuning in to a Bible talk. On youtube, there is a notification button and it notifies me when someone makes a video. So below will be a few channels, you ladies and gentlemen can check out. I will post more but for now, check these amazing people out. Tell your friends and their friends. Be encouraged. Continue to grow in Lord.

Until next time stay blessed. Watch but don’t forget or substitute reading your Bible. Thank you for stopping by my blog. God bless you 🙂

 
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Posted by on January 26, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

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Iron Sharpens Iron

“It will be good for you, my daughter, to go with his girls…
in someone else’s field you might be harmed.”

Ru 2:22 NIV

VALUE YOUR FRIENDS

One author writes: “If you have godly girlfriends, love and nurture those relationships as though your life depends on them—because it does. Everything is better when you ‘go with His girls’…Life is safer, more authentic, longer lasting, and just plain more fun. God created women to rely on other women. I’m blessed by girlfriends who lift me when I’m low, level me when I’m high, and show me the face of God on a daily basis through compassion, humor, strength, and unconditional love. May you cultivate and enjoy the same.” And not only do women need friends, men do too. One of the first things God said in the Bible was, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Ge 2:18). Solomon writes, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Pr 17:17 NKJV). Poet William Carlos Williams wrote: “When trouble comes your soul to try, you love the friend who just ‘stands by.’ Perhaps there’s nothing he can do—the thing is strictly up to you. For there are troubles all your own, and paths the soul must tread alone. Times love cannot smooth the road, nor friendship lift the heavy load. But just to know you have a friend who will ‘stand by’ until the end, whose sympathy through all endures, whose warm handclasp is always yours—It helps someway to pull you through, although there’s nothing he can do. And so with fervent heart you cry, God bless the friend who just ‘stands by.’”

Sunday Scripture | Guilt-free friendship focuses on the friendship and ditches the guilt. Guilt-free friendship loves any chance and any slice of time to catch up, it isn’t about criticizing how much or how frequently that happens. Instead, guilt-free friendship is generous and forgiving and creates easy space for reconnecting because it doesn’t have any conditions for how or when or how often that happens. // Lisa-Jo Baker at incourage.me:

Yesterday’s Devotional:

“Pride goes before destruction.”
Pr 16:18 NKJV

BEWARE OF PRIDE!

Think about the things we become proud over: the home we live in, the car we drive, the diploma hanging on our wall, the people we mingle with, and the position we hold. When you’ve worked hard to get to where you are, look out for pride! Paul asks, “Who makes you differ from another? And what do you have that you did not receive? Now if you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?” (1Co 4:7 NKJV). So what should you do? (1) Examine your belief system about who you are, what you have, and what you can do. Jesus said, “Without Me you can do nothing” (Jn 15:5 NKJV). Remind yourself: “I’m just the glove; God’s the hand that fills it.” That’ll help you to keep your perspective right! (2) Focus more on others than on yourself. The saying—“When a person is all wrapped up in themselves, they make a pretty small package”—is true. “Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others” (Php 2:4 NKJV). (3) Respect and value everyone you meet regardless of their social status, race, gender, or other distinguishing factors. When you walk in humility, people respect you and receive your input, and they don’t suspect you of having selfish motives. The Bible says: “These things the Lord hates…a proud look, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that are swift in running to evil, a false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren” (Pr 6:16-19 NKJV). Today, beware of pride.

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Posted by on January 14, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

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