But forget all that–it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. -Isaiah 43:18
What have you been holding on to? Is it pain from a previous relationship, bitterness from your family or even betrayal/hurt from friendships? Whatever it may be, know that there comes a time when you have to let go. Yes, I must admit that letting go isn’t easy at all. It’s actually one of the hardest things to do for the most part but at the same time it is a blessing. It’s so easy to hold on to everything but we must learn to release everything unto God. We must learn to trust that what we release unto God is for a greater purpose far beyond our understanding. So my question for you today is, what do you need to go of? Why are you clinging on to that very thing God has told you to let go of? What will it take before you release? Regardless of what it may be, you can take it to prayer. There’s nothing too hard for God. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring into mind, the things that you need to release.
For me personally, I’ve struggled with holding unto friendships. It was so hard to let go of those who made it clear to me that they weren’t my friends. I always had this mentality that no matter what trials came along in my friendships, I will forgive and carry on. After all, life is full of many tests. The more that I tried to cling on to these friendships, I was hurting myself. I’ve come to the understanding that not everyone you think is your friend is your friend. Everyone that comes into your life is for a purpose. You can’t fight for everything you want in your life. A friend once told me that “I need to stop trying to maintain friendships with people who aren’t willing to do the same.” I sat down and evaluated myself and the people around me. My friends aren’t necessarily bad friends but they have habits that they have carried on for a while. I always believe that if you desire to have good friends, you have to display the qualities of what a good friend is. We are living in a generation now where people don’t know what it truly means to be a friend. It’s all about benefits. What can this person do me for me? One thing that I have learned over the years when it comes to friendship is that if people don’t prioritize you, don’t make them a priority either. If you find yourself always constantly stretching yourself to maintain a relationship with someone, sometimes you have to step back. You have re-evaluate your circle of friends. Take the time to pray and allow God to do what he needs to do in your relationships. If your desire is to have Godly relationships and the relationships that you have now aren’t up to fit, it may be that some of the people in your life are parting ways with you. They have played the role they needed to play in your life.Whether it may be that they taught you a few or an ample amount of lessons, either ways, there was a purpose for their existence in your life. My mentor once told me that God was removing certain people out of my life. I just cried as she told me. At the time, I didn’t really understand because I already had people leaving my life naturally. It was so painful when she pronounced that news to me but sometimes the truth has to be told. It wasn’t easy but now looking back, I’m so grateful. I’m here to tell you that whatever you have been holding unto, it is time to let go. It’s time to release all the bitterness, hurt and pain. Yes, it’s never easy and I’m not here to tell you that it would be but clinging unto pain because you’ve become so comfortable with talking about what others have done to you is causing more pain. In my previous post, I discussed about a disease called unforgiveness. A disease that is spreading so rapidly among our families, friends and most importantly ourselves. This epidemic must come to an end. It’s about time we speak up about what we are going through. Harboring pain isn’t going to give birth to joy, love or peace. If we say we want the peace of God to reign in our lives, we must be willing to leave our gift at the altar and go and make amends with our brothers and sisters. Stop waiting for your offender to come and make amends with you. Rise Up. Be the bigger person not for yourself but for Christ. Ask God for the grace to forgive. We are not called to be like the world. We are citizens belonging to Christ. I believe that this year is going to be a year of reconciliation and restoration in our family, friendship/relationship dynamics. God is trying to renew, restore our relationships but we must also be willing to partner with God in fulfilling his promises. It’s time to let go. Allow God to break the chain of unforgiveness. God is ready to do a new thing. It’s your year. Don’t let anything hinder you from receiving your blessings. It’s your time to rise up.
Verses I Leave With You:
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. -John 14:27
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. -1 Peter 5:7
Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do:forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead. -Philippians 3:13
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. -Proverbs 3:5-6
Until next time, stay blessed & encouraged. Jesus loves you 🙂