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“He celebrates and sings because of you.”
CELEBRATE YOURSELF—GOD DOES!
Some of us think so little of ourselves that we’d rather be in a bad relationship than none at all. Being around people doesn’t guarantee you won’t feel lonely. Actually, being with the wrong people guarantees you’ll end up feeling empty and used. Until you overcome your fear of being alone and wait for God to give you the right relationships, you’ll continue to feel lonely. Sometimes loneliness is more about not liking yourself than about not having people around who like you. Otherwise, why would you spend so much energy avoiding rejection instead of building healthy relationships? Perhaps you think if you don’t get involved you won’t get hurt. Or you’re afraid to open up in case people criticize you for sharing anything personal. Such anxieties just contribute to your sense of isolation. Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said, “What you picture in your mind, your mind will go to work to accomplish. When you change your pictures, you automatically change your performance.” So: (1) You need a true picture of how God sees you. Paul says, “Because of what Christ has done we have become gifts…God…delights in” (Eph 1:11 TLB). Zephaniah writes, “He celebrates and sings because of you, and he will refresh your life with his love.” (2) You need a true picture of yourself. David said, “You…put me together inside my mother’s body, and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous!” (Ps 139:13-14 CEV). Having these two pictures clearly in mind stops you from operating with a devalued self-image, and enables you to ask for what you need in a relationship.// Devotional: Word For You 🙂
“It will be good for you, my daughter, to go with his girls…
in someone else’s field you might be harmed.”
Ru 2:22 NIV
VALUE YOUR FRIENDS
One author writes: “If you have godly girlfriends, love and nurture those relationships as though your life depends on them—because it does. Everything is better when you ‘go with His girls’…Life is safer, more authentic, longer lasting, and just plain more fun. God created women to rely on other women. I’m blessed by girlfriends who lift me when I’m low, level me when I’m high, and show me the face of God on a daily basis through compassion, humor, strength, and unconditional love. May you cultivate and enjoy the same.” And not only do women need friends, men do too. One of the first things God said in the Bible was, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Ge 2:18). Solomon writes, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Pr 17:17 NKJV). Poet William Carlos Williams wrote: “When trouble comes your soul to try, you love the friend who just ‘stands by.’ Perhaps there’s nothing he can do—the thing is strictly up to you. For there are troubles all your own, and paths the soul must tread alone. Times love cannot smooth the road, nor friendship lift the heavy load. But just to know you have a friend who will ‘stand by’ until the end, whose sympathy through all endures, whose warm handclasp is always yours—It helps someway to pull you through, although there’s nothing he can do. And so with fervent heart you cry, God bless the friend who just ‘stands by.’”
“Pride goes before destruction.”
Pr 16:18 NKJV
BEWARE OF PRIDE!
Think about the things we become proud over: the home we live in, the car we drive, the diploma hanging on our wall, the people we mingle with, and the position we hold. When you’ve worked hard to get to where you are, look out for pride! Paul asks, “Who makes you differ from another? And what do you have that you did not receive? Now if you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?” (1Co 4:7 NKJV). So what should you do? (1) Examine your belief system about who you are, what you have, and what you can do. Jesus said, “Without Me you can do nothing” (Jn 15:5 NKJV). Remind yourself: “I’m just the glove; God’s the hand that fills it.” That’ll help you to keep your perspective right! (2) Focus more on others than on yourself. The saying—“When a person is all wrapped up in themselves, they make a pretty small package”—is true. “Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others” (Php 2:4 NKJV). (3) Respect and value everyone you meet regardless of their social status, race, gender, or other distinguishing factors. When you walk in humility, people respect you and receive your input, and they don’t suspect you of having selfish motives. The Bible says: “These things the Lord hates…a proud look, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that are swift in running to evil, a false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren” (Pr 6:16-19 NKJV). Today, beware of pride.