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It’s Time To Move On

“ Tommy Blades

But forget all that–it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. -Isaiah 43:18

What have you been holding on to? Is it pain from a previous relationship, bitterness from your family or even betrayal/hurt from friendships? Whatever it may be, know that there comes a time when you have to let go. Yes, I must admit that letting go isn’t easy at all. It’s actually one of the hardest things to do for the most part but at the same time it is a blessing. It’s so easy to hold on to everything but we must learn to release everything unto God. We must learn to trust that what we release unto God is for a greater purpose far beyond our understanding. So my question for you today is, what do you need to go of? Why are you clinging on to that very thing God has told you to let go of? What will it take before you release? Regardless of what it may be, you can take it to prayer. There’s nothing too hard for God. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring into mind, the things that you need to release.

For me personally, I’ve struggled with holding unto friendships. It was so hard to let go of those who made it clear to me that they weren’t my friends. I always had this mentality that no matter what trials came along in my friendships, I will forgive and carry on. After all, life is full of many tests. The more that I tried to cling on to these friendships, I was hurting myself. I’ve come to the understanding that not everyone you think is your friend is your friend. Everyone that comes into your life is for a purpose. You can’t fight for everything you want in your life. A friend once told me that “I need to stop trying to maintain friendships with people who aren’t willing to do the same.” I sat down and evaluated myself and the people around me. My friends aren’t necessarily bad friends but they have habits that they have carried on for a while. I always believe that if you desire to have good friends, you have to display the qualities of what a good friend is. We are living in a generation now where people don’t know what it truly means to be a friend. It’s all about benefits. What can this person do me for me? One thing that I have learned over the years when it comes to friendship is that if people don’t prioritize you, don’t make them a priority either. If you find yourself always constantly stretching yourself to maintain a relationship with someone, sometimes you have to step back. You have re-evaluate your circle of friends. Take the time to pray and allow God to do what he needs to do in your relationships. If your desire is to have Godly relationships and the relationships that you have now aren’t up to fit, it may be that some of the people in your life are parting ways with you.  They have played the role they needed to play in your life.Whether it may be that they taught you a few or an ample amount of lessons, either ways, there was a purpose for their existence in your life.  My mentor once told me that God was removing certain people out of my life. I just cried as she told me. At the time, I didn’t really understand because I already had people leaving my life naturally. It was so painful when she pronounced that news to me but sometimes the truth has to be told. It wasn’t easy but now looking back, I’m so grateful. I’m here to tell you that whatever you have been holding unto, it is time to let go. It’s time to release all the bitterness, hurt and pain. Yes, it’s never easy and I’m not here to tell you that it would be but clinging unto pain because you’ve become so comfortable with talking about what others have done to you is causing more pain. In my previous post, I discussed about a disease called unforgiveness. A disease that is spreading so rapidly among our families, friends and most importantly ourselves. This epidemic must come to an end. It’s about time we speak up about what we are going through. Harboring pain isn’t going to give birth to joy, love or peace. If we say we want the peace of God to reign in our lives, we must be willing to leave our gift at the altar and go and make amends with our brothers and sisters. Stop waiting for your offender to come and make amends with you. Rise Up. Be the bigger person not for yourself but for Christ. Ask God for the grace to forgive. We are not called to be like the world. We are citizens belonging to Christ. I believe that this year is going to be a year of reconciliation and restoration in our family, friendship/relationship dynamics. God is trying to renew, restore our relationships but we must also be willing to partner with God in fulfilling his promises. It’s time to let go. Allow God to break the chain of unforgiveness. God is ready to do a new thing. It’s your year. Don’t let anything hinder you from receiving your blessings. It’s your time to rise up.

Verses I Leave With You:

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. -John 14:27

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. -1 Peter 5:7

Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do:forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead. -Philippians 3:13

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. -Proverbs 3:5-6

Until next time, stay blessed & encouraged. Jesus loves you 🙂

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Posted by on January 28, 2018 in Uncategorized


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Destiny Helpers

“You cannot handle it alone.”
Ex 18:18 NIV


President Theodore Roosevelt once said, “The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint to keep from meddling with them while they do it.” Bottom line: Unless you learn to delegate, your leadership will deteriorate and your vision will stagnate. In Exodus, Moses was wearing himself out physically, emotionally, and spiritually trying to keep up with the demands of two million Israelites and be “the answer man” for every problem. That’s when his father-in-law told him, “You cannot handle it alone. Listen…to me and I will give you some advice” (vv. 18-19 NIV). It takes wisdom, maturity, and humility to ask for help. And it’s a sign of strength, not weakness. That’s hard to come to terms with, for those of us who take pride in our ability to “do it all.” The truth is, what Moses was doing was neither good for him nor the people depending on him. As a leader, it’s easy to overestimate your own importance and competence. That’s why Paul cautions, “[Don’t] think you are better than you really are. Use good sense” (Ro 12:3 CEV). God has placed people around you who have certain gifts and talents. When you recognize and involve these people, they’re fulfilled and the job gets done right. God created us to be interdependent, not independent. Delegating authority to the right people strengthened Moses for the task of leading as God intended. When you try to be “all things to all people,” you end up frustrated. You’re not called to do it all, but to get it done through others. That’s what leadership is about.

“I have great confidence in you.”
2Co 7:4 NIV


When people feel “used” they begin to drop out, but when they feel appreciated they’ll follow you anywhere. Paul, one of the finest leaders of all time, told the Corinthian believers, “I have great confidence in you; I take great pride in you. I am greatly encouraged…my joy knows no bounds” (vv. 3-4 NIV). He was their biggest cheerleader. He didn’t just correct, he comforted. He didn’t just sharpen, he strengthened—all hallmarks of great leadership. Good leaders: (1) Are consistent. They set an example by walking the walk so everyone knows that what’s heard at the bottom is practiced at the top. (2) Voice their appreciation, realizing that people need to know they’re an important part of the team and the vision. (3) Always listen to suggestions, opinions, concerns, and ideas. They don’t prejudge, and they’re not dismissive. Author Betty Bender said: “It’s a mistake to surround yourself only with people just like you. Throw off that warm comforter and replace it with a crazy quilt of different and imaginative people. Then watch the ideas erupt!” (4) Don’t see people as statistics. Businesswoman Mary Kay Ash said, “P&L doesn’t mean ‘profit and loss’—it means ‘people and love.’” (5) Explain why they like things done a specific way. It lessens mistakes, and the resentment that can stem from feeling “ordered around.” Statesman Clarence Francis said, “You can buy a man’s time and physical presence at a certain place…But you can’t buy enthusiasm, initiative, loyalty, and the devotion of hearts, minds, and souls. You have to earn these things.”

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Posted by on August 22, 2017 in Uncategorized


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“If you have anything against anyone, forgive him.”
Mk 11:25 NKJV


No matter how much two people love each other, conflicts are sure to arise that call for extending grace and showing forgiveness. Do you know that couples who are happy and stay married have the same number of disagreements and conflicts as couples who are unhappy and get divorced? Statistically, that is true! It’s not the absence of conflict that preserves marriage, but the ability to manage conflict when it happens. So how do you “manage” conflict? By practicing the kind of self-control that keeps conflicts from mushrooming into hurtful and divisive standoffs. It also means knowing what to do with hurt feelings like anger, disappointment, and dashed expectations. In other words, it means knowing how to forgive it and forget it. But emotional hurt and tension are almost impossible to forget; the harder we try, the more we remember. So what’s the answer? Remember to forget! Try to act like God, who chooses not to hold against us what He knows about us. He says in His Word: “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins” (Isa 43:25 NKJV). That means if you are holding something against your spouse, there’s only one solution: Forgive it and forget it. You may never forget how you’ve been hurt, but you can choose to forgive it and move on. No, it’s not easy, but you can do it. How? By remembering the things, known or unknown to others, that God has forgiven you for and extending that same grace to your spouse.

Devotional//Word Of The Day

Question of the day from me to you:

  1. Who do you need to forgive?
  2. What is prolonging the process of your healing?
  3. Have you surrendered the hurt, the pain to God?
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Posted by on July 19, 2017 in Uncategorized


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His Promises Still Remain

“I will pour my blessing on your children.”
Isaiah 44:3 


Parent, here’s a Bible promise you can stand on: “I will pour my Spirit into your descendants and my blessing on your children.” Your kids should be able to take up where you left off! Your ceiling should be their floor. They shouldn’t merely follow you; they should use the foundation you laid to build something greater. Don’t use the comfort of the status quo as an excuse for not challenging old thinking. To get beyond your mental barriers, you need to stop saying things like: “That’s just the way I am,” or “My family never amounted to much, so I won’t either.” When you say that, you’re contradicting God! When God delivered the Israelites from slavery, they started out for the Promised Land. The journey should have taken only eleven days but it ended up taking forty years. What happened? They complained endlessly, and as a result kept going around the same mountain again and again. Why? Because they’d been in slavery for four hundred years, and they thought and talked like slaves! They couldn’t grasp what God had promised them. Finally He told them, “You have stayed long enough at this mountain. Go in and take possession of the land the Lord swore he would give your descendants” (See Dt 2:3). If your past has been one of failure, draw a line in the sand today and declare, “Enough is enough. I’m going to trust God for bigger and better things!” It’s in such moments that destinies are changed. Bottom line: The decisions you make today will affect not only you, but your children—so ask God to help you make the right ones.

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Posted by on July 6, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Refresh Us

“ Julia @humphreyandgrace.

Happy New Month Everyone. What a great joy it is to be able to see a new day rather yet a new month. I hope your’e all doing well. God has been good. I’m trusting that this month will be a refreshing one filled with God’s grace, love, peace and his bountiful blessings to you and your family/loved ones. It was just yesterday that we started a new year and already we are half way towards another chapter. I personally don’t know how your year is coming along by far but I want to remind you of what God’s word says. I came across this Bible verse on a sudden day back in May while studying the word. Lord knows it was for a purpose why I came across this verse. The interesting thing is that I had a dot by this verse but on this day my eyes was set on this verse for a while. The Bible verse is Psalm 77: 11-14

I will remember the deeds of the Lord;
    yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago.
12 I will consider all your works
    and meditate on all your mighty deeds.”

13 Your ways, God, are holy.
    What god is as great as our God?
14 You are the God who performs miracles;
    you display your power among the peoples.


Many times, when we are faced with lives trials, we tend to forget about the God we serve. We fix our eyes on our circumstances and turn our gaze away from the Cross. We run away from his presence where he sacrificed himself for us. I came across this Bible verse two days after I graduated from college. For me, I saw it as a reminder to not forget how far God has brought me. A young woman (Sasha) once said this to me “Sometimes, God will take you around in circles not to take you in a loop but to remind you where you came from.” In all things, we must learn to give thanks to God. Just as the stream flows but never forgets its source, may we never forget all that God has done for us despite the trials we will face in this life. If it means, getting a journal to document the day and date of what took place in your life, write it down. Write down your prayer requests and give thanks to God before and after you receive the good news. Despite the trials you will face in this month or the days ahead, know that God is present in every season of your life. As you spend time in his presence, in prayer, speak his words over your life/circumstance.


Lord I come before you today as I am. I lay everything before you. I thank you for this day and what it holds. Though I do not know what lies ahead of me, I know that you go before me and behind me. According to your word in 1 Peter 5:7, you alone tell us that we should cast our anxiety on you because you care. So Lord, I am laying everything at your altar. This day is yours. Order my steps. I surrender all that I am to you. Have your way in me. Let your will be done. In Jesus name, Amen.


  • Take time to reach out to your friends. Ask them for their requests. If you can pray for them while on the phone or alongside side with them, do so. If they refuse, you can pray for them. It breaks my heart when someone I know is hurting but no one is aware because they don’t know who to confide in. I understand that we are busy and we have our problems but if someone is your friend, you’ll take the time to reach out to them.
  • Spend more time in the Secret Place. More time in God’s presence. With so many of life’s demands, sometimes, we can get entangled in the world’s expectation of us that we don’t even make time to be in the secret place.
  • Random Act Of Kindness. Do something for someone. As we know it is a blessing to give. So give. Whether it is your time, a gift or whatever is laid upon your heart, do so with love.
  • Be careful of what you feed your spirit. Take time to re-evaluate the people you surround yourself with, the music you listen to and also the movies/shows you watch.
  • Take time for yourself. Treat yourself. You deserve it.

Cheers to what this month and what it has in stored for us. I absolutely love the month of July. Though I don’t always like the heat, I love the feel this month always brings. Until next time, live, love, laugh, smile and continue being you. God bless you all. Have a lovely fun-filled month. Let your light shine 🙂

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Posted by on July 1, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Be Wise

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“Those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.”
Pr 11:13 NLT


If you need help with a problem in your personal life, your family, or your career, keep the following things in mind: (1) Bad news is often remembered longer than good news. Long after you have resolved the issue and moved on with your life, the wrong people will continue to focus on it and talk about it. That’s why God’s Word says, “Those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.” (2) Be careful who advises you. “The thoughts of the righteous are right, but the counsels of the wicked are deceitful” (Pr 12:5 NKJV). Be sure you reach for the right person. There are many sources of wisdom in this world, “but the wisdom that is from above is…pure…peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and…hypocrisy” (Jas 3:17 NKJV). Note the words, “the wisdom that is from above.” Confide only in a counselor who walks according to the principles of God’s Word. (3) Make sure the person you trust isn’t confiding in others you wouldn’t trust. They say you can tell a man by the company he keeps. And it’s true! The Bible says, “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly” (Ps 1:1 NKJV). (4) “Problem talk” can portray you as a victim instead of an overcomer. Nobody wants to back a loser. When Job lost everything, almost everybody avoided him. It was only after God doubled Job’s blessings that they returned to participate in his life and bring him gifts. It’s always wise to control your mouth, your thoughts, and your focus. Remember, silence can never be misquoted.


  1. Who are your friends?
  2. Who do you confide in when situations arise?
  3. What have you learned about yourself when your’e faced with trials?

Posted by on June 5, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Walking In The Light


What is Cru? Cru is a caring community passionate about connecting people to Jesus Christ.

“Our purpose is helping to fulfill the Great Commission in the power of the Holy Spirit by winning people to faith in Jesus Christ, building them in their faith and sending them to win and build others and helping the body of Christ to do evangelism and discipleship through a variety of creative ways.

Cru offers spiritual guidance, resources and programs tailored for people from all cultures in every walk of life through many diverse outreaches, including:

  • 2,400 campus ministries engaging more than 82,000 involved students in the U.S. college campuses.
  • Partnership with more than 2,000 churches and organizations to reach America’s poor with the resources they need to survive and overcome the challenges of poverty.
  • Marriage and family outreaches to 12 million people annually through media, conferences and locally hosted events.”

Personal Experience:

I found out about Cru in 2014. I was a transfer from a community college and I was looking for a Christ based organization on campus. In my school, during the fall semester there are information booths set for new students with different organizations that we may be interested in. I was already apart of another organization called Intervarsity. It’s also another campus ministry spreading the word about Jesus. I didn’t join Cru until the Spring semester of 2015. I was on the phone telling my friend about the organizations I’m apart of and she asked me if I knew about Cru because she went to a conference called “Radiate”. I told her that I actually signed up to be apart of Cru but because of my schedule, I wasn’t able to attend Fall semester. So I made every effort to attend my Spring semester and let me tell you, it was amazing. I actually just came back from our second meet up this semester and it was a blessing. In a few, I will share the video that we watched and discussed along with the questions. So if you are looking for a Christ based organization to join in your university, check out Cru or Intervarsity or if your like me, join both. For me, I’ve come across people who tell me to stick to one but I cannot because there’s always something that I learn. I must admit that I do attend Intervarsity more because of the time schedule and like i mentioned I learn so much from both organizations.

So today we were shown a video during our time at Cru. Here it is:

After watching the video, we were asked to form a group consisting of 4 people. There was a list of questions that were displayed for us to answer. I took a picture of the questions but for you lovely people, I’m going to type it. Here are the questions.

  1. How does our relationship with God affect our daily living?
  2. What does it mean to “walk in the light”
  3. What are some practical ways we can love others?
  4. What is more difficult loving God or loving others?
  5. How is love and holiness connected?

As we pondered on the questions, we answered individually and we learned so much from each other. I hope you take the time to also answer these questions by yourself or with your friends/loved ones. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. Be encouraged & Stay Blessed 🙂

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Posted by on February 2, 2017 in Uncategorized


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