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It’s Time To Move On

“ Tommy Blades

But forget all that–it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. -Isaiah 43:18

What have you been holding on to? Is it pain from a previous relationship, bitterness from your family or even betrayal/hurt from friendships? Whatever it may be, know that there comes a time when you have to let go. Yes, I must admit that letting go isn’t easy at all. It’s actually one of the hardest things to do for the most part but at the same time it is a blessing. It’s so easy to hold on to everything but we must learn to release everything unto God. We must learn to trust that what we release unto God is for a greater purpose far beyond our understanding. So my question for you today is, what do you need to go of? Why are you clinging on to that very thing God has told you to let go of? What will it take before you release? Regardless of what it may be, you can take it to prayer. There’s nothing too hard for God. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring into mind, the things that you need to release.

For me personally, I’ve struggled with holding unto friendships. It was so hard to let go of those who made it clear to me that they weren’t my friends. I always had this mentality that no matter what trials came along in my friendships, I will forgive and carry on. After all, life is full of many tests. The more that I tried to cling on to these friendships, I was hurting myself. I’ve come to the understanding that not everyone you think is your friend is your friend. Everyone that comes into your life is for a purpose. You can’t fight for everything you want in your life. A friend once told me that “I need to stop trying to maintain friendships with people who aren’t willing to do the same.” I sat down and evaluated myself and the people around me. My friends aren’t necessarily bad friends but they have habits that they have carried on for a while. I always believe that if you desire to have good friends, you have to display the qualities of what a good friend is. We are living in a generation now where people don’t know what it truly means to be a friend. It’s all about benefits. What can this person do me for me? One thing that I have learned over the years when it comes to friendship is that if people don’t prioritize you, don’t make them a priority either. If you find yourself always constantly stretching yourself to maintain a relationship with someone, sometimes you have to step back. You have re-evaluate your circle of friends. Take the time to pray and allow God to do what he needs to do in your relationships. If your desire is to have Godly relationships and the relationships that you have now aren’t up to fit, it may be that some of the people in your life are parting ways with you.  They have played the role they needed to play in your life.Whether it may be that they taught you a few or an ample amount of lessons, either ways, there was a purpose for their existence in your life.  My mentor once told me that God was removing certain people out of my life. I just cried as she told me. At the time, I didn’t really understand because I already had people leaving my life naturally. It was so painful when she pronounced that news to me but sometimes the truth has to be told. It wasn’t easy but now looking back, I’m so grateful. I’m here to tell you that whatever you have been holding unto, it is time to let go. It’s time to release all the bitterness, hurt and pain. Yes, it’s never easy and I’m not here to tell you that it would be but clinging unto pain because you’ve become so comfortable with talking about what others have done to you is causing more pain. In my previous post, I discussed about a disease called unforgiveness. A disease that is spreading so rapidly among our families, friends and most importantly ourselves. This epidemic must come to an end. It’s about time we speak up about what we are going through. Harboring pain isn’t going to give birth to joy, love or peace. If we say we want the peace of God to reign in our lives, we must be willing to leave our gift at the altar and go and make amends with our brothers and sisters. Stop waiting for your offender to come and make amends with you. Rise Up. Be the bigger person not for yourself but for Christ. Ask God for the grace to forgive. We are not called to be like the world. We are citizens belonging to Christ. I believe that this year is going to be a year of reconciliation and restoration in our family, friendship/relationship dynamics. God is trying to renew, restore our relationships but we must also be willing to partner with God in fulfilling his promises. It’s time to let go. Allow God to break the chain of unforgiveness. God is ready to do a new thing. It’s your year. Don’t let anything hinder you from receiving your blessings. It’s your time to rise up.

Verses I Leave With You:

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. -John 14:27

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. -1 Peter 5:7

Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do:forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead. -Philippians 3:13

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. -Proverbs 3:5-6

Until next time, stay blessed & encouraged. Jesus loves you 🙂

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Posted by on January 28, 2018 in Uncategorized


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Who Are Your Friends?

“A man of too many friends comes to ruin.” –Proverbs 18:24
(Friendship Part 1)
With few exceptions, your success in life depends on your ability to establish and maintain relationships with the right people.
According to a report by the American Management Association the overwhelming consensus of 200 managers who participated in a survey, was that the most important skill of an executive is his or her ability to get along with people. They rated this ability as more vital than intelligence, decisiveness, knowledge, or job skills.
Quite frankly, none of us makes very many true friends in life— at least, we better not! Solomon warns, “A man of too many friends comes to ruin.” Friendship requires time, energy, sacrifice, and investing yourself. And not every so-called friend will prove to be one, as Jeremiah warned King Zedekiah: “They misled you and overcame you – those trusted friends of yours. Your feet are sunk in the mud; your friends have deserted you” (Jeremiah 38:22).
The wrong friend will betray you, as Judas proved with Jesus. So here’s a good rule of thumb: “Be friendly to everyone, but don’t have everyone as a friend.” Solomon said, “The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray” (Proverbs 12:26).
Charles Spurgeon said, ‘A man is known by the company he shuns, as well as the company he keeps.” The Hebrew word for “choose” is tur, and in the Old Testament it refers to a man like a surveyor who searches out land. So if you’re wise, you’ll explore and evaluate your friendships before you enter into them. You say, “But I’m lonely.” As George Washington said, “It is better to be alone than in bad company.” Devotional// Word For You Today 🙂
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Posted by on August 9, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Rejoice In The Lord

Andrea Howey

“He celebrates and sings because of you.”
Zephaniah 3:17 


Some of us think so little of ourselves that we’d rather be in a bad relationship than none at all. Being around people doesn’t guarantee you won’t feel lonely. Actually, being with the wrong people guarantees you’ll end up feeling empty and used. Until you overcome your fear of being alone and wait for God to give you the right relationships, you’ll continue to feel lonely. Sometimes loneliness is more about not liking yourself than about not having people around who like you. Otherwise, why would you spend so much energy avoiding rejection instead of building healthy relationships? Perhaps you think if you don’t get involved you won’t get hurt. Or you’re afraid to open up in case people criticize you for sharing anything personal. Such anxieties just contribute to your sense of isolation. Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said, “What you picture in your mind, your mind will go to work to accomplish. When you change your pictures, you automatically change your performance.” So: (1) You need a true picture of how God sees you. Paul says, “Because of what Christ has done we have become gifts…God…delights in” (Eph 1:11 TLB). Zephaniah writes, “He celebrates and sings because of you, and he will refresh your life with his love.” (2) You need a true picture of yourself. David said, “You…put me together inside my mother’s body, and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous!” (Ps 139:13-14 CEV). Having these two pictures clearly in mind stops you from operating with a devalued self-image, and enables you to ask for what you need in a relationship.// Devotional: Word For You 🙂

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Posted by on August 5, 2017 in Uncategorized


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His Peace I Receive



“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace.”
Isa 26:3


Here is a prayer for peace: “Lord, Your Word says, ‘Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on thee, because he trusteth in thee.’ Your Word says, ‘The Lord gives strength to his people; the Lord blesses his people with peace’ (Ps 29:11 NIV). Your Word says, ‘Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you…Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid’ (Jn 14:27 NIV). Your Word says, ‘The peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus’ (Php 4:7 NIV). Today I need this peace which transcends understanding to settle my nerves and calm my mind. Instead of thinking about my fears and worries, help me to focus on Your goodness, Your faithfulness, Your healing power, Your overflowing resources, and Your forgiving heart. Take up residence within me and fill me with Your peace. Show me what’s robbing me of it. I really want to know, Father, so I can be specific in what I need to confess, what I need to commit to, and what I need to change. I open myself to You now. Teach me the secret of lasting peace. I thank You now for whatever it will take to help me receive the peace You have so generously offered to me. Your Word says, ‘Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts’ (Col 3:15 NIV). Today I want to be ruled by Your peace instead of my fears and worries. So I give all my concerns to You, trusting You to work them out for my good and Your glory. In Jesus’ Name I pray: Amen.”

Devotional//Word Of The Day. Picture Credit: Me. Have a lovely day 🙂


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Posted by on July 28, 2017 in Uncategorized


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“If you have anything against anyone, forgive him.”
Mk 11:25 NKJV


No matter how much two people love each other, conflicts are sure to arise that call for extending grace and showing forgiveness. Do you know that couples who are happy and stay married have the same number of disagreements and conflicts as couples who are unhappy and get divorced? Statistically, that is true! It’s not the absence of conflict that preserves marriage, but the ability to manage conflict when it happens. So how do you “manage” conflict? By practicing the kind of self-control that keeps conflicts from mushrooming into hurtful and divisive standoffs. It also means knowing what to do with hurt feelings like anger, disappointment, and dashed expectations. In other words, it means knowing how to forgive it and forget it. But emotional hurt and tension are almost impossible to forget; the harder we try, the more we remember. So what’s the answer? Remember to forget! Try to act like God, who chooses not to hold against us what He knows about us. He says in His Word: “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins” (Isa 43:25 NKJV). That means if you are holding something against your spouse, there’s only one solution: Forgive it and forget it. You may never forget how you’ve been hurt, but you can choose to forgive it and move on. No, it’s not easy, but you can do it. How? By remembering the things, known or unknown to others, that God has forgiven you for and extending that same grace to your spouse.

Devotional//Word Of The Day

Question of the day from me to you:

  1. Who do you need to forgive?
  2. What is prolonging the process of your healing?
  3. Have you surrendered the hurt, the pain to God?
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Posted by on July 19, 2017 in Uncategorized


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His Promises Still Remain

“I will pour my blessing on your children.”
Isaiah 44:3 


Parent, here’s a Bible promise you can stand on: “I will pour my Spirit into your descendants and my blessing on your children.” Your kids should be able to take up where you left off! Your ceiling should be their floor. They shouldn’t merely follow you; they should use the foundation you laid to build something greater. Don’t use the comfort of the status quo as an excuse for not challenging old thinking. To get beyond your mental barriers, you need to stop saying things like: “That’s just the way I am,” or “My family never amounted to much, so I won’t either.” When you say that, you’re contradicting God! When God delivered the Israelites from slavery, they started out for the Promised Land. The journey should have taken only eleven days but it ended up taking forty years. What happened? They complained endlessly, and as a result kept going around the same mountain again and again. Why? Because they’d been in slavery for four hundred years, and they thought and talked like slaves! They couldn’t grasp what God had promised them. Finally He told them, “You have stayed long enough at this mountain. Go in and take possession of the land the Lord swore he would give your descendants” (See Dt 2:3). If your past has been one of failure, draw a line in the sand today and declare, “Enough is enough. I’m going to trust God for bigger and better things!” It’s in such moments that destinies are changed. Bottom line: The decisions you make today will affect not only you, but your children—so ask God to help you make the right ones.

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Posted by on July 6, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Refresh Us

“ Julia @humphreyandgrace.

Happy New Month Everyone. What a great joy it is to be able to see a new day rather yet a new month. I hope your’e all doing well. God has been good. I’m trusting that this month will be a refreshing one filled with God’s grace, love, peace and his bountiful blessings to you and your family/loved ones. It was just yesterday that we started a new year and already we are half way towards another chapter. I personally don’t know how your year is coming along by far but I want to remind you of what God’s word says. I came across this Bible verse on a sudden day back in May while studying the word. Lord knows it was for a purpose why I came across this verse. The interesting thing is that I had a dot by this verse but on this day my eyes was set on this verse for a while. The Bible verse is Psalm 77: 11-14

I will remember the deeds of the Lord;
    yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago.
12 I will consider all your works
    and meditate on all your mighty deeds.”

13 Your ways, God, are holy.
    What god is as great as our God?
14 You are the God who performs miracles;
    you display your power among the peoples.


Many times, when we are faced with lives trials, we tend to forget about the God we serve. We fix our eyes on our circumstances and turn our gaze away from the Cross. We run away from his presence where he sacrificed himself for us. I came across this Bible verse two days after I graduated from college. For me, I saw it as a reminder to not forget how far God has brought me. A young woman (Sasha) once said this to me “Sometimes, God will take you around in circles not to take you in a loop but to remind you where you came from.” In all things, we must learn to give thanks to God. Just as the stream flows but never forgets its source, may we never forget all that God has done for us despite the trials we will face in this life. If it means, getting a journal to document the day and date of what took place in your life, write it down. Write down your prayer requests and give thanks to God before and after you receive the good news. Despite the trials you will face in this month or the days ahead, know that God is present in every season of your life. As you spend time in his presence, in prayer, speak his words over your life/circumstance.


Lord I come before you today as I am. I lay everything before you. I thank you for this day and what it holds. Though I do not know what lies ahead of me, I know that you go before me and behind me. According to your word in 1 Peter 5:7, you alone tell us that we should cast our anxiety on you because you care. So Lord, I am laying everything at your altar. This day is yours. Order my steps. I surrender all that I am to you. Have your way in me. Let your will be done. In Jesus name, Amen.


  • Take time to reach out to your friends. Ask them for their requests. If you can pray for them while on the phone or alongside side with them, do so. If they refuse, you can pray for them. It breaks my heart when someone I know is hurting but no one is aware because they don’t know who to confide in. I understand that we are busy and we have our problems but if someone is your friend, you’ll take the time to reach out to them.
  • Spend more time in the Secret Place. More time in God’s presence. With so many of life’s demands, sometimes, we can get entangled in the world’s expectation of us that we don’t even make time to be in the secret place.
  • Random Act Of Kindness. Do something for someone. As we know it is a blessing to give. So give. Whether it is your time, a gift or whatever is laid upon your heart, do so with love.
  • Be careful of what you feed your spirit. Take time to re-evaluate the people you surround yourself with, the music you listen to and also the movies/shows you watch.
  • Take time for yourself. Treat yourself. You deserve it.

Cheers to what this month and what it has in stored for us. I absolutely love the month of July. Though I don’t always like the heat, I love the feel this month always brings. Until next time, live, love, laugh, smile and continue being you. God bless you all. Have a lovely fun-filled month. Let your light shine 🙂

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Posted by on July 1, 2017 in Uncategorized


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